Why Men Pull Away-8 reasons why men are afraid of commitment


Are you currently dating in a relationship with a guy, and it seems to you that he’s afraid of being committed to you? I’ve learned by doing a little research that some men become very uncomfortable when it comes to settling down when it comes to women. So you may be thinking to yourself, why is the felling this way?

Here are some reasons why men are afraid of commitment!

1. He hasn’t truly grown up!


For a lot of men it can take a little longer to grow up than women. It takes a certain amount of time and maturity to get to the point to when he’s ready to be truly committed.

If he’s not yet matured he’s not ready to consider the wants and needs of others above his own.

2. His past(history)!

When you have learned about his past relationships, even the ones involving his childhood, you will start to understand why he’s afraid of commitment.

He could be turning away from new relationships because of pain that was caused by a previous breakup before you. He may feel the needs need a little time until the feels comfortable in his new relationship with you.


3.He May Feel You Don’t Respect Him For Who He Is Right Now.

If the feels you don’t love and respect him for who the is right now, he’s thinking what will things be like in a few years from now? Or maybe 10-20 years from now?

Every man has his own dreams about what the future may hold for him and if you don’t seem as if you are supportive of his dreams, this can raise serious doubts that can be causing him to be afraid to commit to you.


4. He may feel the will have loss of free time.

Every man enjoys free time to himself and to do his own thing.He may feel that a serious relationship may take up an enormous amount of his time and energy and the may be thinking the doesn’t want that kind of pressure right now.

5.He may be feeling pressured by you.



Are you constant in his ear about it all the time and is it really getting to him? If you don’t want him to be afraid to commit to you, then you should allow him to reach that stage on his own. If you are constantly bringing it up, the may become upset with you and you will push him further away.

6.His close friends are afraid of commitment.

The majority of men will want to commit sooner or later. But the may not have wanted to be the first one out of his group of friends(buddies), feeling like the misses out on anything with his single friends.

7.He’s got other priorities.

He balances out everything- work, family, and friends. He may be feeling he’s got other areas in his life that the thinks need more attention, that this comes first and the will think of you later.

8.There’s someone else.

Hopefully this is not the case, but It is possible the may have someone else on his mind,it may be leaving him confused about what kind of future the wants for you and him. It is also possible the may not over his ex-girlfriend making him afraid to commit to you.

Understand that a  lot of times men can be very difficult to read, plenty times it can hard to know what it is they really want. Men will tend to just  let the relationship just fall into place without any pressure and you waiting for this to happen can be useless!

If you think you and your boyfriend should become more serious,( moving in together, or even talking about marriage), you should find a time to very gently talk to him.

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This is when you can find out what it is the wants and where your relationship is going.You should make sure you don’t talk AT him and make sure the conversation is light and friendly, and you may be surprised at how the opens up to you!

Are you feeling lonely and frustrated by a man who is ignoring your
phone calls or you feel he’s taking you for granted ?

Are you wishing  your man were more attentive, loving,
and noticed you more ?

Are you tired of taking second place in your relationship
and feeling under-loved, even ?

There are 3 seemingly harmless questions that will change
EVERYTHING and awaken his overwhelming feelings of love and devotion for you.

Find out what they are: Why are men afraid of commitment -Reasons Why Men Pull Away      

These  3 harmless questions that will awaken his love and devotion!

Once you ask these innocent questions, it’s going to
push any thoughts of other women and any other distractions
from his mind.

In fact, it’s going to shock his system so much it will give him
absolute certainty that you are the only woman he wants to
be with.

No matter what your situation, this will turn your man from
disinterested to devoted!

Even if he has stopped calling you or answering your texts..

This will make him beg for a second chance.

Even if you have been together a long time, and he’s acting distant,
ignoring you and treating you like an afterthought…

This will bring him back to you and make him shower you with love
in a way that will make your head spin and your heart sing.

These 3 harmless questions have a POWERFUL effect over a man.

It’s time you found out what they are and watch something amazing
happen to your man:


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No more feeling inadequate. No more going to bed feeling alone
and unloved.

Watch the romance come back to life!

Hope this helps and thanks for reading,

Happy Dating,


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11 thoughts on “Why Men Pull Away-8 reasons why men are afraid of commitment”

  1. I’ve bumped into different things in life where I leave them. The most recent one was because he was a man-child.I was like.. Oh my Lord.

    The previous one was because I couldn’t respect him and then realized it was because I didn’t admire him. I felt bigger than him and he felt inferior.

    1. Hi Linda,
      you are so right about that,some men just grow up faster then others,and I’m glad you realized that at
      times it’s just to worth it! If he’s not for you MOVE ON.

      BUT! Are you sure that’s really what you want to do? A lot of times theirs an underlying cause for this,
      maybe because of his past UNHEALTHY relationships it could be a matter of what DATING EXPERTS call the
      fear factor syndrome that can cause his fear of committing to you.

      thanks for the comment Frederick

  2. All I can say is WOW.

    Very very interesting. I never knew men were scared of so many specific things before being in a relationship.

    Why some men lead women on when they know they don’t want a serious relationship?

    The reason why I ask, some guys I know feel that’s the game to play. I tell them all the time that it is not good to play with someone’s feelings that way.

    Am I wrong for telling them not to do so? Is it fair for them to hurt others because of their fears?

    I watch them make heartbreaks in relationships so many times where it’s not funny anymore.

    I would love to know what to tell them to stop the heartbreaks…

    1. Hi Cooki,and thanks for the comment:-)

      one of the main reasons men are afraid of commitment (and their are many) is he feels he’ll be giving away his freedom;hanging out with the guys,not able to come and go as he pleases,and a lot of the times it’s can be pier pressure,things like hey man that woman’s got you wrapped around her finger!

      With that said most men feel as if to (sow their royal oaks),believe me I KNOW,after all, I am a man.Because of this I also know that the CORRECT PUSH from any woman can CHANGE all that.

      Hope this helps and thanks again Frederick,  

  3. Hey thanks for an interesting read.

    I think you are so right about looking to the past sometimes to see where his insecurities lie. Men are not the greatest at talking let alone communicating their feelings, they always want to be macho and put on a front.

    I personally think it just takes time and trust. Trust so he will open up more to you. I fully agree that constantly banging on at him will only push him away.

    I think if you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him you can show great patience and wait till he is ready.

    1. Hi Michelle,
      men are something else aren’t we? We have the tendency to hold on to are past
      disappointments of having one or more unhealthy relationships that most of us will
      think that this is the way it will always be(what a shame that is).

      And I filly agree with you when it comes to the TRUST FACTOR!
      He will hide his fear of trusting the one he loves by playing the macho role to
      the point to what he’s really doing is hiding his fear of being committed.

      Being patience is good but you owe it to yourself not to wait to long,
      remember,you only live once:-)

      thanks again and happy dating!

  4. I definitely agree with you that a lot of men take a little longer to mature and find their place in the world. I remember at one point feeling like I didn’t really want to date anyone younger than 26 for the exact reason.

    I wanted a commitment and younger guys just aren’t always ready for that.

    As someone who has now been married for over a decade, I want to also add that every man has their way of expressing love. My husband isn’t great at it but he gets better and better as I communicate my needs to him.

    Communication in a relationship is so important. I don’t think a woman should even be considering a commitment if a man is not ready to even talk about it. You either have to learn to enjoy what you have while you have it, or move on.

    1. Hi Sunny,

      as sad is it may be,even though I am a man this is true,men do take longer to mature.The good thing is that their are ways to break through that barrier that stops men from growing UP.Men can’t be truly committed
      in a relationship until they do!

      Congratulations on your 10th year and counting of marriage 🙂

  5. Coming from a mans perspective I agree with this article. We want to be respected by our women no matter what. It’s what feeds our ego when you don’t have that love and respect we’ll walk away.

    I have a tendency to assume every female will leave you in the end. But that’s only because I haven’t had much luck settling down I’m young so guess it’s a learning process

  6. I consider these reasons to relate to women because they can feel the same feelings towards men as well.

    I think its worth asking yourself whether you are truly ready for a relationship or if there are any areas in one’s life that need mending, it’s worth puling back and working on yourself first.

    So many people subconsciously rush into a relationship without knowing it therefore the relationship does not end well.

    This was worth the read. Great post.

    1. Hi Flavia,
      this is so true,men (or women ) can’t truly be committed to a relationship if they have
      other areas in their lives that need to work on first.

      Neither can really be have if they have issues that keeps them from 100% emotionally committed
      in a long lasting relationship.

      Thanks for your comment

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